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First, We Create

10/16/2025 03:13:13 PM

Oct16

And so we start again. After much festivity, fasting, dancing, praying, laughing, and crying, we roll the Torah back to its beginning and read from Genesis 1:1.

A new beginning can be a wonderful and a terrifying thing. Maybe your kids have left for college… now what? Your friend got a new job — where do they start? Our freed hostages are finally home to begin life again, but how? That war has ended. And new wars will begin. What...Read more...

Please Rise

09/18/2025 05:04:34 PM

Sep18

Moses has assembled the people to enter the covenant with God before crossing into the land of Israel. They are told of the danger of forsaking God and the blessing of loving God. Our parsha begins, “You stand this day, all of you, before the LORD your God”. It’s not just men, not just adults, not just the rich, not just citizens. It’s everybody. And they are a diverse group, from prince to woodchopper. The one descriptor that unites...Read more...

Heart Like a Truck

08/28/2025 03:02:58 PM

Aug28

When the Israelites are about to go to war the Torah teaches that the leaders should say to the people, “Is there anyone afraid and disheartened? Let him go back to his home, lest the courage of his comrades flag like his,” or so translates JPS. And the translation is reasonable given that this is the culmination in a list of exemptions for soldiers who may have another mission they are called to be on — building family, tilling the...Read more...

On the Cusp

08/14/2025 05:12:10 PM

Aug14

When the Israelites are on the threshold of the land of Israel, Moses emphasizes to them that they should not say to themselves, “God has enabled us to possess this land because of our virtues”. There’s nothing about them that entitles them to a safe and flourishing life in God’s land; "Rather [it’s] because of the wickedness of those nations that God is dispossessing them before you.” (Deuteronomy 9:4). Is Moses saying the...Read more...

Complaint Stacking

07/03/2025 03:25:55 PM

Jul3

Sometimes we wait too long to address our discomfort. We can’t pinpoint what’s bothering us, or we decide to let little things go until those little things seem to stack into a pile, or maybe we’re nervous to speak up. The result is usually problematic.

Imagine: maybe you’re hurrying somewhere, someone else made you late, you’re hot in the humidity (no imagination required here), you’re carrying something a little too...Read more...

Better Before

06/26/2025 04:51:44 PM

Jun26

Korach’s rebellion begins with an argument. He challenges Moses and Aaron’s authority, saying, “You have gone too far, sons of Levi!” He takes issue with their leadership, or maybe with his own secondary leadership position, or maybe with their teachings, or even, as some of the rabbis say, with God and Torah. He is combative — bringing 250 high ranking men with him to this confrontation, non-collaborative with a strong focus on...Read more...

All Hands on Deck

06/12/2025 12:42:04 PM

Jun12

I’ve spent this week as head of bikes at Ramah Darom, watching kids send it down big hills (sadly, for them, also bike up them), through the woods, and round the lake. It’s a thrill having a hands-on job at camp. I don’t need to tell them to pay attention. Their eyes are wide and alert as their wheels grip the road. I don’t need to remind them how beautiful it is to be here. They feel the breeze and the sun in every lap round camp....Read more...

Fighting Fire with Fire

05/01/2025 05:09:04 PM

May1

Fire and brimstone sermons exhort the community to avoid immoral behavior lest they face divine wrath and its consequences. Such sermons often come into popular culture as an example of hyperbolic fear mongering, a torrent of judgment and blame without a lot of realistic guidance. They can feel more like anger looking for a target than compassion looking for a lost soul.

As fires in Israel ravaged Jerusalem forests on the eve of Yom...Read more...

Building Joy

03/06/2025 04:38:06 PM

Mar6

Adar is a month of joy, when the rabbis teach we are instructed to increase our simcha. This month for Lunch and Learn I’m teaching a two part series, Practicing Joy. Last Tuesday we discussed what to add into your life to build joy. Next Tuesday we will be learning what to restrict from your life to do the same.

The premise is consistent: Jews are thoughtful builders of joy.

What does that mean? It means we don’t...Read more...

So They Sang

02/06/2025 02:55:42 PM

Feb6

In a sea of complaints, the Israelites leave captivity in Egypt. When they were slaves, the Torah teaches, they cried out and groaned under a heavy load. But one of the very first liberties they take as free people is to complain in their own words, sometimes snarky sometimes biting, to another person.

To Moses they quip, “Was it for want of graves in Egypt that you brought us to die in the wilderness?” Hungry, they wish they had...Read more...

In Good Time

12/26/2024 12:15:13 PM

Dec26

It can feel impossible to know when is the right time to do something, especially something big or challenging, exciting or frightening. When is the right time to speak up? When is the right time to leave? When is the right time to start?

One of my favorite songs we sang in middle school chorus was about an old man playing the fiddle while rain poured through a big hole in his roof. In the downpour a drenched traveler tells the...Read more...

Our Brother is Gone

12/19/2024 01:12:52 PM

Dec19

El Al’s motto is “hachi babayt b’olam”, “most ‘at home’ in the world”. And while I spend most of my time fruitlessly trying to accrue Delta points, it felt deeply true as I nestled into my flight to Tel Aviv last Sunday. I am at home in the world. And in Israel I feel most at home.

I’d started chatting with the folks next to me in the security line as if we’d been friends for years. Where I sat, the flight...Read more...

Words Without Substance

11/21/2024 02:46:07 PM

Nov21

There is a devious slipperiness in making public pronouncements that you know won't result in any action or change. It offers a chance to posture yourself as generous or good, or to defame and threaten another person, without having to pay any real cost or take accountability. 

There is no shortage of social media posts and videos of angry people spouting gory, vicious threats. When confronted, such speakers say it was just talk,...Read more...

Show Up and Learn

09/26/2024 03:26:49 PM

Sep26

The high holiday season can be overwhelming. There is a sense, maybe rightly so, that we should each be overcome with awe and fear. Some of us might secretly await a dramatic reset, heralded by a hurricane or claps of thunder. Or maybe we want a eureka moment where we suddenly discover or understand something in a way that makes the season’s significance finally palpable and obvious. We wait for a moment of teshuvah that should...Read more...

A Verse to Remember

09/12/2024 04:43:35 PM

Sep12

This high holiday season we have been learning the ways that Judaism is about Love, guided by Rabbi Shai Held’s book of that name. One of the hardest passages to implement, perhaps especially at this challenging time in our people’s history, has been about loving one’s enemy. We could quickly get stuck in a thicket of difficult questions on how to do that without causing more harm to oneself. And yet, even without addressing the...Read more...

Hidden in the Handwriting

08/15/2024 02:54:24 PM

Aug15

There are some beautiful details that only the Torah reader sees. As you listen to the Torah read out loud in services, you might read along in a chumash (a typed and printed copy of the text). But the person looking at the scroll itself sees something vibrant, varied, and beautiful. Here the words are squished together, there they are stretched out, and everywhere each letter slightly different by virtue of the human hand the wrote...Read more...

Keep Calm and See the Good

08/08/2024 02:06:12 PM

Aug8

Rabbi Sacks wrote that Judaism has an “intense peoplehood dimension”. And yes, our connection to our people is intense — filled with love, empathy, demands, and bickering — as it has been for thousands of years. Our formation and development as a people, not as an assortment of individuals or an abstract moral idea, is the heart of the book of Deuteronomy. And the emotional ambivalence of peoplehood resonates throughout this week’s...Read more...

The Blessing of Consequences

07/18/2024 03:56:40 PM

Jul18

When I was a little kid I was crawling through a big plastic tunnel in a line of kids at some indoor playground. The two boys in front of me were messing around and kept stopping, holding up the line of hands and knees, and my face was stuck adjacent to the second guy’s sneakers and rear end. Now if I’m being generous to little Elizabeth, I should also say I was feeling claustrophobic and a little panicked, trying desperately to exit this...Read more...

To Win an Argument

07/05/2024 09:13:31 AM

Jul5

Some people are a joy to argue with. I know, that might seem like a stretch. Maybe you don’t know someone like that in person, but you’ve delighted in witty repartee on Gilmore Girls or in a Bronte novel. Or maybe you have a friend with different politics, or sports teams, or restaurant taste and the two of you have been cheeky bantering for years. Or maybe you come to Coffee and Commentary and love to argue about the parsha and...Read more...

My God is a Jealous God

06/14/2024 02:24:31 PM

Jun14

This week’s torah portion, Nasso, teaches us about jealousy. Torat Ha’Knaot, literally "the Torah of Jealousies", is twenty verses of instruction on how a jealous man can confront his wife of her suspected infidelity. The rules of the ensuing ritual, sotah, seem almost witch-like and arcane. Under priestly supervision, the wife must drink water mixed with ink and curses that will cause her some sort of physical harm if she has in...Read more...

He Will Reap in Gladness

05/02/2024 02:09:54 PM

May2

This week's Torah portion is called Acharei Mot or After the Death.

It opens with God sending a message to Aaron through Moses on how to approach God in the same sentence that repeats how two of Aaron’s sons have just died for approaching too close to God. The word for approach to God, qorva, is the same root as a sacrifice, qorban, or the basis of the Temple’s operation. In the aftermath of tragic death, deaths of his...Read more...

What We've Heard So Far in Israel

04/04/2024 12:38:46 AM

Apr4

We have met with soldiers, survivors, peaceniks, and Israelis who never expected that their full time job would suddenly become coordinating emergency aid, rescues from armed gunmen, camps for displaced persons, or dozens of funerals.

From her Sukkot travel in Portugal, Chen turned her entire apartment into a command center to collect reports of her wounded, killed, abducted, trapped — her sister, nephews, father, and lifelong...Read more...

Guest Post: Making a New Home

03/14/2024 12:40:41 PM

Mar14

This week's Shabbat Shalom article is a guest post by Sari Broberg! In honor of Women's Shabbat we're highlighting the wisdom, understanding, and skills of so many women in our congregation. From Sari:

My husband Matt and I put an offer on a home a few weeks ago, the same week as our first wedding anniversary. Much like how the Israelites made so many preparations for the Mishkan (God's home, if you will)...Read more...

Joy: It's What You Do

02/22/2024 04:01:08 PM

Feb22

The rabbis teach that we must increase our joy for Adar. And this year the month of Adar repeats, with the holiday of Purim (a pinnacle of rejoicing) held off until second Adar. So our calendar this year has served us a full extra month to be increasing joy. And it could come at no harder time. It this time in the life of our people, joy may feel hard, disingenuous, or disloyal. But Adar is here. And Purim is coming. And Purim Katan, or...Read more...

Never Going Back Again

01/25/2024 04:50:32 PM

Jan25

Today, along with dozens of other B'nai Torah members, I watched the Georgia State Senate pass HB30, a bill to define antisemitism for the purposes of assessing antisemitic intent behind perpetrated crimes -- ie assault or harassment -- that would qualify them as hate crimes.

It was an incredible moment of Jewish unity, as rabbis and congregations and supporters of the Jewish people across Georgia gathered in the...Read more...

Humility in Powerful Leadership

01/04/2024 02:56:37 PM

Jan4

This Shabbat we begin the book of Exodus. We read the story of the children of Israel’s slavery in Egypt, freedom from Pharaoh, and long journey towards the land of Israel. Our communal memory brings up vivid scenes of plagues and a parting sea, maybe with a soundtrack of Paul Robeson chanting in spine-tingling baritone, “Let my people go!” But that’s not what Moses says to Pharaoh. He asks for three days off.

Moses asks...Read more...

A Tale of Two Babies

12/14/2023 03:16:25 PM

Dec14

Our Haftorah this week is the famous story of King Solomon and the baby. Two women each birth a son. One of the infants dies. Each woman claims the remaining living infant as her own. They come to Solomon locked in argument. Solomon sits in judgment of their dispute and decides to cut the baby in half; half will go to each. One mother cries, “Give her both babies! Just don’t kill the child!” The other says, "If I can't have him, neither...Read more...

Notes of Prayer, Vayishlach

12/04/2023 12:27:06 PM

Dec4

My sermon this past Shabbat went through the ways parshat Vayishlach can teach us about grief and prayer. We watch Jacob stand terrified at precipice of grief and danger -- having possibly lost his mother, at risk to lose his wives and children, ready to be annihilated by his estranged brother. There Jacob recites the words: "I am too small for all the lovingkindness and faithfulness that you have shown me, your servant. I...Read more...

One Mission Per Person

11/02/2023 04:07:16 PM

Nov2

Three men stop outside Abraham’s tent Abraham as he sits in the doorway on a hot day. These men are angels, or messengers of God, and they are integral to the story that unfolds — from the birth of Isaac to the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. The rabbis ask: why three angels? Shouldn’t one celestial being be enough? And their answer is: because an angel can only have on mission at a time.

Michael, in Hebrew: who is like God?,...Read more...

To Pray When You Are Grieving

10/12/2023 11:56:59 AM

Oct12

I’ve never connected so deeply to our liturgy as I did this past Sunday. In part it was the ruach of Simchat Torah as we whirled in circles and shouted and sang. In part it was the joy of kindergartners visibly delighting in huggable plushie torahs. But mostly it was the feeling of breaking. A part of me had broken apart. Our people have been attacked and our family thrust into war and the sense of safety, bubbly enthusiasm, and joviality I...Read more...

A Carrot or a Stick

08/31/2023 04:31:57 PM

Aug31

Moses says to the people: after you have crossed the Jordan river, half of you will stand on Mount Gerizim to bless the people, and half of you will stand for the curse on Mount Ebal. So half the tribes go up one mountain, and half up the other, and the Levites, from Mountain Gerizim, will shout a series of blessings and curses to all. To each curse the people respond “Amen”. Presumably the pronouncement is something like an Alpine...Read more...

God of Contracts and Kindness

08/03/2023 08:58:35 AM

Aug3

I don’t know much about crypto currency. I’m not a banker or in tech and I don’t have any interest in bitcoin (though I do have a dear friend who wrote a Modern Love column on it once, which clearly I recommend and is the closest I’ve gotten to the subject). To be honest, I thought crypto was “over” — like bell bottoms or Furbies, a fad we hope not to return again. But then I was informed that crypto companies do other things,...Read more...

Words with Friends

07/13/2023 09:26:29 AM

Jul13

My favorite thing about Judaism is the arguing. Now I don’t mean screaming or insulting or winning or losing. I mean the arguing, when one person says to another, “Here’s a really interesting question!” And the other replies, “Oh yeah that is interesting!” And then someone says, “I think the answer is this”; and another says, “It is the opposite.” And off we go.

I love it because in this process we have a purpose...Read more...

The Things We Carry

06/01/2023 04:59:39 PM

Jun1

The Israelites donated vehicles (carts and oxen) to the Levites to transport the elements of the mishkan, the tabernacle. Moses then divided the carts and oxen up among the three Levite families. But to the Kohathites he gave none “because theirs was the service of the [most] sacred objects, their porterage was by shoulder” (Numbers 7:9).

And so the Israelites moved the miskhan, our most holy structure and God’s home,...Read more...

Doing Everything All At Once

05/18/2023 03:47:36 PM

May18

What is the danger in discombobulation? Discombobulation is a modern word of fanciful mock Latin origin that roughly means  “confusion”. But it also implies to me a sense that all your parts are out of order, as if you woke up one morning assembled backwards or, as my grandfather used to joke, “Your feet smell and your nose runs.” If I am feeling discombobulated, I can’t make heads or tails of a situation, everything...Read more...

Here, You Do It

04/20/2023 01:33:17 PM

Apr20

This Shabbat is Earth Day, so here is a lesson from my twenties spent exploring earth.

When I led cycling trips around the globe we had a number of pre-trip tasks to do that I did not particularly like: calling the posh French hotels to confirm our particular American reservations; adjusting and cleaning all the derailleurs so the bikes shifted just right; filling mysterious fluids in the huge boxy Fiat’s engine.

Like most,...Read more...

This and Next Year in Jerusalem

03/30/2023 02:49:51 PM

Mar30

The first matzahs just hit the shelves in Tel Aviv as I was packing up to leave Israel this past Wednesday. My Passover preparation this year was to spend the past two weeks as the rabbi for a group of 20 young couples from Atlanta on a trip with Honeymoon Israel. They traveled to Israel to build Jewish community in Atlanta and to strengthen their relationship to each other, to Judaism, and to the Jewish people.    Our people...Read more...

Belonging in a Big Community

02/09/2023 10:49:02 AM

Feb9

There’s a mathematical limit to how many people you can know well. Well, there’s a theory of one anyway. A British anthropologist, Robin Dunbar, suggests it’s 150. Beyond that size, any social group starts to lose coherence and splinter. Dunbar’s number is based on our cognitive capacity as understood by human brain size and structure. Our ability to know people well and feel comfortable with them takes brain space and time. We learn...Read more...

There is No Right Way

01/05/2023 01:36:06 PM

Jan5

When it comes to doing things I don’t really know how to do, I like to wait for some sort of “sign” to begin. Maybe that is to find the perfect snack, or most aesthetic room arrangement, or research the task itself over-thoroughly before considering starting. There is something in the mystery of doing things well which can paralyze me. Especially if I don’t really know how I did it well a previous time. I try to ritualize the...Read more...

One Hand Clapping

12/15/2022 11:50:39 AM

Dec15

As a child someone gave me a book of zen koans. Yes this is a little strange, but let’s just accept that it happened. A koan is a stumper question, one asked by a teacher of enlightenment to a student. It’s meant to provoke such advanced meditative reflection that one might gain insight into the deepest reality of existence. You might have heard the more popular, “What is the sound of one hand clapping?” A koan may or may not have an...Read more...

All Good Things

10/27/2022 10:08:59 AM

Oct27

My dog does not excel at long term strategizing. I imagine his inner monologue going something like, “Oh here is my favorite toy! I am so very excited. I shall DESTROY IT!” His love language seems to be chewing. And whatever is most beloved shall be torn to shreds. I have no way of knowing if he misses the objects, or if at night, when his little paws are dream-running through fields, the lost toys haunt him as happy ghosts of his...Read more...

Never Going Back Again

09/01/2022 10:05:54 AM

Sep1

A dear friend of mine wants to go back to his pre-Covid self. He feels he has lost a part of himself, the part that socialized easily and fluently, charming new friends without effort. “How can I go back to that me?” he asked me in sadness, “Something of me has been lost”. He is not alone. I imagine that each of us has been, at one time or another, caught in such a riptide of wanting to go back, searching for a past...Read more...

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